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#21 U K

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Posted 25 November 2010 - 10:50 PM

I absolutely disagree, but I understand it is your opinion so I respect that.

I have to ask you this though... have you ever been bullied yourself? If not then you can never know how it feels and I feel calling those who are bullied a weak person is very unfair.

Everybody is different and everybody deals with things in a different way. Not everybody can stand up for themselves, that doesn't mean they are a weak person though, you could even argue that it takes a lot of strength and courage to keep going back to school or wherever every day, knowing what might happen. For me it started when I was 6-7, how do you expect a young kid to stand up to a group of bullies? I was shy, lacked confidence and felt all alone, it had nothing to do with being a weak person.

I know two of those who bullied me when I was at school, they failed most of their exams, one has never even had a job, one is in prison... Yet, I got decent grades, a good job, a lot of good freinds and I am enjoying life. I can stand up for myself these days, but then I never have any problems either, so you tell me, in my case who really won in the end in "survival of the strongest?".

In my opinion it is the bullies themselves who are weak and insecure, having been on the recieving end I find it hard to sympathise, but for whatever reason they became bullies, they also need help as well as I do believe that people can change. It is the victims of bullies that I feel for though.

I respect everyone else's opinions too, but I like how you stated it and others were like "omg what you're saying is wrong". :P

Yeah, your point is very correct and I have absolutely no objections. Although I have to say that no, I don't consider a 6-7 year old getting bullied a weak person or personality, but the older you get, the more you have to stand up for yourself and I didn't realize bullying happens at THAT low of an age. I was sure that it doesn't start that early. Thats the thing I didn't consider when I was writing my opinion.

And as to the quite lame expression 'survival of the strongest', this only lasts for the time you're being bullied. In the end, of course you're the nicer and more tolerant person than the bullies AND you have a greater chance of succeeding in life. Not in all cases, but at least in your case.

//EDIT: Oh, and some have tried to bully me at a younger age, but have failed quite miserably. And there have been very few because I'm studying at basically the best school (or 2nd best. And 'best' in many terms) in town and the rate of retards (bullies) is veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery low, due to the difficulty of being able to start studies at the school. Bullies, who are usually retards, simply fail here and drop out.

hahahah, no. Kidding aside I think you didn't read the other replies. Because a lot of the bullied people are stronger than before. ;) And I believe it's pretty hard to stand up for your self if a lot of people bully you. And if you fight back an entire group and their friends get after you. But I agree, you need a lot of self confidence.

I did read the other replies. You've got to keep fighting back, that's the thing. At least I wouldn't back down to no one.

weak? your having a laugh right?

It takes a strong person to put up with the amount some of us have had to over the years.

I personally dislike ignorant people but you know....

Sure it does, but if you were strong enough, you'd fight back and stand up for yourself.


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Posted 26 November 2010 - 12:35 AM

I love stopping those bully people.

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 04:04 AM

^lol, i was wondering why bullies never pick on pplz twice their size lol

one thing about bullying, we can always beat them with numbers, cus the number of the bullied is always bigger than bullies. i prefer take em one on one but that's the best thing about bullies, they scared of u more than u scared of them, thats why they always travels in packs
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Posted 26 November 2010 - 06:37 AM

I respect everyone else's opinions too, but I like how you stated it and others were like "omg what you're saying is wrong". :P

Yeah, your point is very correct and I have absolutely no objections. Although I have to say that no, I don't consider a 6-7 year old getting bullied a weak person or personality, but the older you get, the more you have to stand up for yourself and I didn't realize bullying happens at THAT low of an age. I was sure that it doesn't start that early. Thats the thing I didn't consider when I was writing my opinion.

And as to the quite lame expression 'survival of the strongest', this only lasts for the time you're being bullied. In the end, of course you're the nicer and more tolerant person than the bullies AND you have a greater chance of succeeding in life. Not in all cases, but at least in your case.

//EDIT: Oh, and some have tried to bully me at a younger age, but have failed quite miserably. And there have been very few because I'm studying at basically the best school (or 2nd best. And 'best' in many terms) in town and the rate of retards (bullies) is veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery low, due to the difficulty of being able to start studies at the school. Bullies, who are usually retards, simply fail here and drop out.

I still don't agree, but I am glad that you have explained your answer more. When you have been bullied from that young of an age, it is harder to stand up against bullies as you get older, because you are just so low on confidence. It wasn't until I had finished school and the bullying stopped, that I started to gain confidence in myself.

It can start at a younger age than 6-7 too, but as soon as kids are put together and are able to interact with one another when they start nursery school at 4-5 the possibility is there for bullying, it's not as common, they may not even realise what bullying is and it is more likely to be picked up by a parent/teacher, but it can happen. Perhaps more awareness needs to be raised at a younger age, and children made to feel that there will always be somebody there for them to talk to if ever they have problems.

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 01:22 PM

I did read the other replies. You've got to keep fighting back, that's the thing. At least I wouldn't back down to no one.

Well I didn't fight back per se. I just got a lot more self confidence. And I started to laugh about it. It stopped then and now nobody screws with me. So there are at least two ways to handle this problem.

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Posted 26 November 2010 - 01:43 PM

//EDIT: Oh, and some have tried to bully me at a younger age, but have failed quite miserably. And there have been very few because I'm studying at basically the best school (or 2nd best. And 'best' in many terms) in town and the rate of retards (bullies) is veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery low, due to the difficulty of being able to start studies at the school. Bullies, who are usually retards, simply fail here and drop out.


Sorry but your wrong, I went to one of the best schools here in cheshire, the entire student body was made up of very intelligent people,and guess what? Yes i got bullied by a group of girls who were intelligent.

Bullies know what their doing, they know that calling me names, being racist towards my bf, then dragging my family into the mix would defintily hurt me. Dumb people dont know what their doing, so i really fail to see how you can call them that. They bully people due to their arrogance of not understanding someone or something. To this day i have no idea why they bullied me, but i know they know and for that reason they cant be "retards"



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Posted 26 November 2010 - 01:46 PM

Sure it does, but if you were strong enough, you'd fight back and stand up for yourself.


NOT trying to be offensive!


If you read my posts you will see i did fight back in the end, she attacked me and then failed. She thought she could take me on due to having my back turned but one thing she didn't know about me is that my brother had taught me how to defend myself due to these bullies. And she failed so hard at trying to kick my arse that it was almost funny, she got humiluated. But it still carried on.



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Posted 26 November 2010 - 03:03 PM

Sorry but your wrong, I went to one of the best schools here in cheshire, the entire student body was made up of very intelligent people,and guess what? Yes i got bullied by a group of girls who were intelligent.

Bullies know what their doing, they know that calling me names, being racist towards my bf, then dragging my family into the mix would defintily hurt me. Dumb people dont know what their doing, so i really fail to see how you can call them that. They bully people due to their arrogance of not understanding someone or something. To this day i have no idea why they bullied me, but i know they know and for that reason they cant be "retards"

I mean they're retards (so called and not in its literal meaning of course) for bullying, cuz it's a stupid thing to do and I'm sure you agree.

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Posted 28 November 2010 - 11:24 PM

I mean they're retards (so called and not in its literal meaning of course) for bullying, cuz it's a stupid thing to do and I'm sure you agree.


I still think that word is disgusting, no matter what meaning it is placed in. Period.



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Posted 29 November 2010 - 12:55 AM

weak? your having a laugh right?

It takes a strong person to put up with the amount some of us have had to over the years.

I personally dislike ignorant people but you know....



I completely agree. I was bullied and I am a strong person. I was totally self-confident... and I was bullied way more then I hope anyone should ever experience in their life!

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Posted 29 November 2010 - 02:49 AM

This is a phenomenon that shows that human race is going down. I don't know what phsycological factors cause bullying or how this can stop.
But all i wonder is why people back then could face it and move on easier than people today. I mean bullying used to exist longer ago, but people wouldn't commit suicide so easily, or get depressed so easily. They somehow moved on. But it seems that nowadays suicide is the most common result bullying causes.
I might be wrong though. But still i wonder.

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Posted 14 December 2010 - 05:40 PM

This is a phenomenon that shows that human race is going down. I don't know what phsycological factors cause bullying or how this can stop.
But all i wonder is why people back then could face it and move on easier than people today. I mean bullying used to exist longer ago, but people wouldn't commit suicide so easily, or get depressed so easily. They somehow moved on. But it seems that nowadays suicide is the most common result bullying causes.
I might be wrong though. But still i wonder.



now your making me Wonder As well cause back in the 50-90's Committing Suicided was So rare now today in the 2000's It is just happening like crazy I never really though of that Good point

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Posted 14 December 2010 - 05:53 PM

I wonder if suicide is more prevalent now or we just hear about it more in our hyper connected society.

It used to be that bullying was getting beat up, shoved in your locker, made fun of etc. All horrible things to go through. But I believe something that today's bullied kids go through that wasn't there before is social networks etc. Now it's not relegated to just a few people picking on you or just the people in the hall who saw you get beat up. Now days it will be posted on YouTube for everyone to watch you get beat up over and over. Kids get taunted on facebook. Embarrassing pictures get posted on the Web. So your mortification is spread to the great wide world instead of just a few kids in your class. People who are a thousand miles away join in on giving you crap when they see it posted on the Internet.

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Posted 14 December 2010 - 07:15 PM

I wonder if suicide is more prevalent now or we just hear about it more in our hyper connected society.

It used to be that bullying was getting beat up, shoved in your locker, made fun of etc. All horrible things to go through. But I believe something that today's bullied kids go through that wasn't there before is social networks etc. Now it's not relegated to just a few people picking on you or just the people in the hall who saw you get beat up. Now days it will be posted on YouTube for everyone to watch you get beat up over and over. Kids get taunted on facebook. Embarrassing pictures get posted on the Web. So your mortification is spread to the great wide world instead of just a few kids in your class. People who are a thousand miles away join in on giving you crap when they see it posted on the Internet.


Yes basically That is how it is now a Days and I Am Against cyber bullying and every kind there is It is Redlicous The 90's were the best times <3 but bullying is getting overrated and basically ruining websites or whatever for everyone I cant stand It

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Posted 14 December 2010 - 07:22 PM

now your making me Wonder As well cause back in the 50-90's Committing Suicided was So rare now today in the 2000's It is just happening like crazy I never really though of that Good point

Agreed, I mean I can't deny I haven't thought of it myself either.

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Posted 14 December 2010 - 07:40 PM

bullying is awful... and its awful that it never stops.

like.. yea fine kids are doing it, thats easier for me to understand cause they want to be cool or whatever,.. but adults? seriously, why do they do that? so cruel. my aunt got bullied by her coworkers cause she earned more money than them. how Immature is that?

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Posted 14 December 2010 - 07:45 PM

bullying is awful... and its awful that it never stops.

like.. yea fine kids are doing it, thats easier for me to understand cause they want to be cool or whatever,.. but adults? seriously, why do they do that? so cruel. my aunt got bullied by her coworkers cause she earned more money than them. how Immature is that?


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Posted 15 December 2010 - 12:51 PM

I wonder if suicide is more prevalent now or we just hear about it more in our hyper connected society.

It used to be that bullying was getting beat up, shoved in your locker, made fun of etc. All horrible things to go through. But I believe something that today's bullied kids go through that wasn't there before is social networks etc. Now it's not relegated to just a few people picking on you or just the people in the hall who saw you get beat up. Now days it will be posted on YouTube for everyone to watch you get beat up over and over. Kids get taunted on facebook. Embarrassing pictures get posted on the Web. So your mortification is spread to the great wide world instead of just a few kids in your class. People who are a thousand miles away join in on giving you crap when they see it posted on the Internet.

I think the way technology has advanced so quickly is definitely a factor... when I was bullied at school we didn't even have mobile phones and only a lucky a few had 56k dial up internet. The way the media works now, we definitely hear about it more.

This reminds me of an incident a few years ago in a town called Bridgend in Wales, there were 25+ suicides in the space of two years, they were all linked to an internet cult but it was never proven. Here is and interesting article regarding Bridgend- http://www.vanityfai...-suicides200902 which talks about internet sucides but also explains that it is not necessarily a new thing.

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Posted 15 December 2010 - 04:42 PM

I think the way technology has advanced so quickly is definitely a factor... when I was bullied at school we didn't even have mobile phones and only a lucky a few had 56k dial up internet. The way the media works now, we definitely hear about it more.

This reminds me of an incident a few years ago in a town called Bridgend in Wales, there were 25+ suicides in the space of two years, they were all linked to an internet cult but it was never proven. Here is and interesting article regarding Bridgend- http://www.vanityfai...-suicides200902 which talks about internet sucides but also explains that it is not necessarily a new thing.

Really interesting article, but so tragic.

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Posted 15 December 2010 - 10:55 PM

I think the way technology has advanced so quickly is definitely a factor... when I was bullied at school we didn't even have mobile phones and only a lucky a few had 56k dial up internet. The way the media works now, we definitely hear about it more.

This reminds me of an incident a few years ago in a town called Bridgend in Wales, there were 25+ suicides in the space of two years, they were all linked to an internet cult but it was never proven. Here is and interesting article regarding Bridgend- http://www.vanityfai...-suicides200902 which talks about internet sucides but also explains that it is not necessarily a new thing.


Oh yes i remember this in the news,
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