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#41 MOONMELON

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Posted 19 December 2010 - 09:15 PM

Sorry but your wrong, I went to one of the best schools here in cheshire, the entire student body was made up of very intelligent people,and guess what? Yes i got bullied by a group of girls who were intelligent.

Bullies know what their doing, they know that calling me names, being racist towards my bf, then dragging my family into the mix would defintily hurt me. Dumb people dont know what their doing, so i really fail to see how you can call them that. They bully people due to their arrogance of not understanding someone or something. To this day i have no idea why they bullied me, but i know they know and for that reason they cant be "retards"


maybe they were picking up on you because they saw you as a threat.Trying to keep you down so that you wouldn't get better than her at smt.Also she might have tried to make an example out of you for other kids to see what would happen if they messed with her.
i am actually surprised that i never got bullied.In middle school i used to be the quiet one with no friends in school.But I do have this girl in my class now that gets verbally abused because she has good grades by this other girl that doesn't.Whenever the bully makes remarks about the "nerd" you can hear the envy in her voice and read it on her face.I think it's disgraceful especially since the mean girl wants to have children right after she finishes high-school -I mean what will that kid learn from his own mother?She also makes remarks about me or other classmates when she feels vulnerable (hope i spelled it right)but i never give her the attention she wants and I don't listen to her because I know that hurts her more.
I'm really impressed with what some of you guys have lived trough and I can only hope that one day I can be as noble and brave as you guys! :)

P.S.the girl with the good grades wants to be a teacher and she is now starting to stand up to the bully. I think this experience will help her in handeling the kids she will be teaching to :D

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#42 The Dude

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Posted 31 December 2010 - 05:18 AM

Saw this a couple of weeks ago and it made me think of this thread. It's a school in Texas that did this project in their video production class to promote school unity. I just thought this was really cool and had a great message. It uses the Katy Perry song Firework.



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Posted 31 December 2010 - 05:33 AM

It's all very strange and horrible at the same time, and I agree with you that schools have no idea what to do about it. Back in Junior High (2 years ago) I was bullied. I called it to the principals attention and he wound up trying to do a little "meeting" to make us friends :huh: . They put on an act, and after the heat died down they began to start again. It was at this point that I had a few options.
  • My father suggested that I beat them up very badly (which I liked a lot, but I would be the one who got in trouble)
  • Tell the principal
  • Handle it myself
I told the principal, and he talked to them. He didn't assign them any punishment, but he gave them a warning. I talked with the principal afterwards, and I "talked" him into giving him a day of detention.
I learned from this, however. Next year, when the heat was off of them once more and they subtly began to pester me once more, I threatened them "in a violent manor." They have not talked to me since. So what did I learn, the only way to get something done right is to do it yourself.

I never thought of killing myself though. I can't imagine how bad it must have been for the kids who did :mellow:

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Oh, and the reason why I was targeted was because I'm "the nice guy" and a gentleman. In case you were wondering.

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 04:24 PM

Thought this was cool.



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Posted 04 February 2011 - 05:13 PM

Thought this was cool.


Wish I could watch it, but it says I can't. Stupid Germany -.-

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 06:22 PM

Wish I could watch it, but it says I can't. Stupid Germany -.-

It's a clip from The View (I don't watch the show, just found the clip on the Internet). They had a young boy on there the other day who's about ten or twelve along with his family. He has been bullied at school and some of it was caught on video. After interviewing him they surprised him when players from the Philadelphia Eagles (his favorite team) including Pro Bowl wide receiver DeSean Jackson came out to see him. DeSean gave him a jersey and signed and the players said the next time anything like this goes down that they've got his back. It was pretty cool.

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 06:41 PM

It's a clip from The View (I don't watch the show, just found the clip on the Internet). They had a young boy on there the other day who's about ten or twelve along with his family. He has been bullied at school and some of it was caught on video. After interviewing him they surprised him when players from the Philadelphia Eagles (his favorite team) including Pro Bowl wide receiver DeSean Jackson came out to see him. DeSean gave him a jersey and signed and the players said the next time anything like this goes down that they've got his back. It was pretty cool.

Thats pretty cool, very nice of them. Thanks for telling me haha.

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Posted 14 March 2011 - 11:04 AM

On the subject of bullies.
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Posted 14 March 2011 - 10:20 PM

i was bullied, physically and mentally, but i had had enough of it so i stood up for myself and punched the bully, he has never bothered me again...


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Posted 16 March 2011 - 04:21 AM

i was bullied, physically and mentally, but i had had enough of it so i stood up for myself and punched the bully, he has never bothered me again...

Good for you! It's always important to stick up for yourself! Like this kid...


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Posted 16 March 2011 - 09:05 AM

Good for you! It's always important to stick up for yourself! Like this kid...


Thats the vid I posted above, but facebook deleted it. That guy is so awesome he exists on my ipod


And it appears that youtube has deleted that one.

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Posted 21 March 2011 - 04:08 PM

I was bullied a LOT when I was younger but as I got older it stopped. I now am determined to become a happy, healthy, and successful person so I can come back and say look, none of this affected me. The sad part is, it did though. Yeah, I am happy but there are some self esteem issues that I have that I am not sure if they will ever go away. But honestly, having a good life is what irritates people the most - seeing people just really, truly happy.

It also frustrates me that school educators do almost nothing to stop bullies. I hate it when kids put on an act - I went to the pharmacy one time with my uncle and a girl that bullied me was the cashier behind the counter (we hadn't seen each other in ages), and once we left he went, "well she seems nice enough". SEEMS being the key word - she is mean spirited and is a bully if I ever saw one. Of course, she got it from her family, who is also mean and terrible.
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Posted 23 March 2011 - 08:30 PM

im getting bullied in work, i know i am. I get the same anxious feeling around this girl at work, and my heart beats incredibly fast whenever someone tells me what she has said about me.

The woman has been on maternity leave for about 6 months i think, she is 26 and i am 19. She is older than me and picking on me. Its stupid and i know i need to do somethign about it but its only this week i have realised its getting bad.

Monday night my best mate jack told me that he was involved in a argument last tuesday regarding me between her and this other desk person. they were all moaning about me, saying that i dont do things properly, that i make mistakes and that i am basically not good enough to be in the customer service desk. Just want to point out my mother died before christmas and i havent been back to work that long.

Jack stuck up for me then she told him that i told her that i am not even his friend and i am only his friend because i feel sorry for him!!! i havent had a conversation with her since she left, so i dont understand.

Not only that, she has been really cruel about this middle aged bloke that works on produce. His wife is dying and this girl wound her up and said, "why dont we get you on a date with him?" and this horrid girl responded with, "gotta wait for his wife to die first, hahaha"

So i am going to get my revenge by reporting her, i do not care that her husband works with us, and will make things awkward. I have more friends in thtat place than she does so in the end i will win this.



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Posted 23 March 2011 - 08:48 PM

^good for you, dont let the bully grind you down, they'll spot the weakness and up their game...


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Posted 23 March 2011 - 09:04 PM

^good for you, dont let the bully grind you down, they'll spot the weakness and up their game...


yeah your right!!

Not letting it get out of hand like it did to me in highschool. Refuse for her to bring me down because i enjoy my job, i am very good at it hence why i keep getting promoted. So i generally think she is jealous, because i am not bad at my job and everyone knows that.



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Posted 23 March 2011 - 09:48 PM

^ jealousey fuels so much bullying these days...


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Posted 24 March 2011 - 09:05 AM

@ Imagine That person is just horrible! Attacking people who have lost and are loosing loved ones is just the lowest of the low. She is scum and deserves to be sacked from her job. If she is disliked by a large number at work, you should start up lots of rumors about her and fight fire with fire!

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Posted 24 March 2011 - 10:38 AM

I was bullied in H.S. because I liked older music (prog rock bands like Genesis, Floyd, Rush, King Crimson, etc.) I got hell especially for Genesis, who everyone saw as uncool.

Now that they've been inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall Of Fame, they're having a sudden second wave of popularity. Many high school students are members of the Genesis forum I belong to.

I've always gone my own way, and done my own thing. And that has always deemed me as unpopular among most of my peers. What can I say...I'm a creative and artistic person, I don't like being part of the crowd.

But I definitely feel for those that are highly sensitive and get hurt by trying to fit in, and don't. I always associated with the fellow outcasts, but some people just struggle to even make a friend, even with a fellow outcast. I feel bad for those people, because everyone deserves to have a friend, and to be liked and appreciated for who they are.

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Posted 24 March 2011 - 07:02 PM

@ Imagine That person is just horrible! Attacking people who have lost and are loosing loved ones is just the lowest of the low. She is scum and deserves to be sacked from her job. If she is disliked by a large number at work, you should start up lots of rumors about her and fight fire with fire!

That'll probably cause more problems than answers.

Imagine, you should file an official grievance if your work allows it. Otherwise going up the chain of command might be helpful (but that also depends on how proactive leadership is at your work). But I would stick to proper ways of seeking her ouster rather than starting a war with her.

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Posted 24 March 2011 - 07:35 PM

@ Imagine That person is just horrible! Attacking people who have lost and are loosing loved ones is just the lowest of the low. She is scum and deserves to be sacked from her job. If she is disliked by a large number at work, you should start up lots of rumors about her and fight fire with fire!


Yeah your right, she is incredibly low for doing that and i will forever not like her now lol.As much as that would fun, it just isnt me. I am not stooping down to her level and plus its unprofessional.

I was bullied in H.S. because I liked older music (prog rock bands like Genesis, Floyd, Rush, King Crimson, etc.) I got hell especially for Genesis, who everyone saw as uncool.

Now that they've been inducted into the Rock & Roll Hall Of Fame, they're having a sudden second wave of popularity. Many high school students are members of the Genesis forum I belong to.

I've always gone my own way, and done my own thing. And that has always deemed me as unpopular among most of my peers. What can I say...I'm a creative and artistic person, I don't like being part of the crowd.

But I definitely feel for those that are highly sensitive and get hurt by trying to fit in, and don't. I always associated with the fellow outcasts, but some people just struggle to even make a friend, even with a fellow outcast. I feel bad for those people, because everyone deserves to have a friend, and to be liked and appreciated for who they are.


Awwww that sounds exactly what most people go through, just because you like different things from the "Norm" you are deemed the bully target. And i hate that, it makes me angry that because you like somethign different from what is popular that you have to get picked on.

Hope it hasnt left any lasting problems on you, my bullies left me in a mess :(

That'll probably cause more problems than answers.

Imagine, you should file an official grievance if your work allows it. Otherwise going up the chain of command might be helpful (but that also depends on how proactive leadership is at your work). But I would stick to proper ways of seeking her ouster rather than starting a war with her.


Yeah your right,

Yeah my work has a zero tolerance on in work bullying, they recognise that it isnt a common problem due to us all being adults but it is still happening. I could definitly file a complaint, i am really close with management and the store manager loves me so i could defintily speak to him about it. But the problem is, i have no proof. She has never said anything to my face, she is dead nice to my face then as soon as i am gone she says nasty things about me to my best mate.



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