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Being in your 20s

10 June 2013 - 05:47 PM

I have a thought that has crossed my mind several times the last one-two year(s), and it is one about my age. I'm now 21 and have a feeling that this age is much more difficult than when I was, for example, 14. Everybody always speaks of puberty being such a difficult age; I feel that the difficult part only just started. I think it depends on where you live and under what circumstances. I never was a very tough puber to begin with, but I only now realise that though my life wasn't easy at some points, I had really few things to worry about. I now live on my own, my studies in university fly by (with a bit of luck I'll have my diploma next year) and everyone expects me to make big choices in my life for which I feel I'm just not completely ready. Anyone else who has experienced this? I'm just curious :).

My musical story

18 May 2013 - 09:02 PM

So, I don't really know why, but I felt like I wanted to write down my musical story over here. You guys are always really friendly and listening, so I feel this is the right place :).
I come from a musical family; my father is a professional mucisian, as well is my stepmother, and as well were my grandparents from my mother's side. My mother is an actress with a lot of musical ability as well. My siblings and I were and are brought up with a lot of classical music around us. I feel greatly blessed for this; the music has become a huge part of my life, maybe one of the most important parts even. I really couldn't imagine not having music around me, it has always been there.
I started taking violin lessons when I was five and moved to piano when I was eight. I think I was about twelve when I started singing; I sang a lot, but never really seriously, although I had a role in the school opera (yes, we did an opera at school  :yesyes: ) when I was fourteen. Three years ago I started my voice training with a elderly lady who had a very long working career as a teacher and performing career as a singer. She was and is a great inspiration to me and has taught me a lot. However, last month I moved to a different teacher; switching music teachers now and then can be really helpful to discover new things and learn from different approaches. This is a huge difference; this is a young tenor who I believe is in his final year of conservatory. I'm almost 21 so we're only little apart in age, which is really nice. We get along well and I feel I can learn a lot from him. 
What I didn't mention was that I never pursued actual studies in music, like at the conservatory. However, over the past few months actually, I've started to realise that that may be where I want my path to lead me to. I've been through some things and am extremely happy I finally found something I may actually get really good at one day. I'm currently in my second year of uni, most probably two or three years to go there. Taking up a second studies is becoming more and more difficult here in the Netherlands because of economic crisis and savings and all that stuff. So money is one problem, but that can be overcome; if it is my true dream to sing professionally, I will just find my way to pay for my studies (which are thus extra studies after I've gotten my degree at uni in a couple of years time). Another thing though, is my lack of self-esteem; the phrase "The only person standing in your way is you" really is about me. I feel insecure about my singing many many times. This is part of the process I believe. I am absorbing every piece of music I can find; I go to concerts, I go to masterclasses at the conservatory and sit in the audience, but when I see all those people performing I think: my gosh, I am so extremely far away from this level. What helps is that my new teacher does actually take me serious. The first thing he asked was whether I want to sing professionally, and I said I just want to sing, need to sing, and see where things turn. I really want to work very hard to become better and to feel free to sing at my very best, but sometimes I just don't know if I'm strong enough to survive the huge inner development it needs (not to mention the extremely hard business I might be entering, looking at my dad...)
I see this has become a very long story. I thank you so much for reading it :).

Young people and cancer

08 May 2013 - 07:10 PM

In the Netherlands we have a tv-program called "Over Mijn Lijk" ("Over my dead body"); a reporter follows the life of five young cancer patiens who have no chance of recovery anymore for more than a year. All participants of the five series by now created were between 14 and 38 years old approximately. Only one of them is still alive right now. 
Watching this program taught me a lot about life and death. I was stunned by the incredible courage of most of the participants and it inspired me a lot. I used to be really scared of death, but seeing these young people (mostly my age) cope with a fate so terrible in such an incredible way made me see things so differently somehow, and I really feel a lot of respect for them. I wonder if there are programs like this one in other countries too. Have you seen them? What did you think of it? And even if you haven't seen them, what do you think of the concept? I must emphasize how integer and beautifully this program is made; there's no slightest bit of sensationalism in it at all, and that's one of the many things that make it so beautiful. 


05 May 2013 - 06:15 PM

After having taken a Swedish course for two semesters, I have decided to visit Stockholm for five days together with a friend in July. I'm looking for people who know the city/have been there and can advice me on everything I need to see and know! Since I thus speak the language a little, I'm really looking forward to the trip. I've always been fascinated about Scandinavia and Sweden in particular...


27 April 2013 - 09:00 PM

I have the habit of getting bored with my haircut every now and then...but I rarely have the guts to change it. I have dark blonde hair, currently over my shoulders and with a fringe. The problem and the cause of me not daring to change it radically is that I have quite a large head and sharp jaw line. My head really is quite big; I have a pretty high forehead as well. I'd love to experiment with a short haircut (a bit like Emma's), but I'm just not sure it will fit me. Some people with a good deal of knowledge about hair have said I shouldn't do it, but that of course doesn't satisfy me. The fridge I got 1,5 years ago is an improvement for my looks, but the short haircut is on my mind constantly...there must be a way, right? What do you guys think?