I have a thought that has crossed my mind several times the last one-two year(s), and it is one about my age. I'm now 21 and have a feeling that this age is much more difficult than when I was, for example, 14. Everybody always speaks of puberty being such a difficult age; I feel that the difficult part only just started. I think it depends on where you live and under what circumstances. I never was a very tough puber to begin with, but I only now realise that though my life wasn't easy at some points, I had really few things to worry about. I now live on my own, my studies in university fly by (with a bit of luck I'll have my diploma next year) and everyone expects me to make big choices in my life for which I feel I'm just not completely ready. Anyone else who has experienced this? I'm just curious .
I think this is such an interesting topic you raise. I believe experiences are different for everyone according to their circumstances. I had some tough teenage years and was generally different from a lot of my peers. Circumstances were such that I had never given myself the time to experiment and socialize with friends because of the complexity of familial issues I was dealing with.
I'm in my twenties now and I can partially relate to how you feel. I think what I confront now are different issues and complexity with personal relationships. I have been able to approach both my past and my current life with a broader perspective, deeper understanding, and larger appreciation. I have been independent for a while, and university does fly by for me as well, but as a result I have always expected myself to have to make big choices in my life. I can understand, though, the apprehension before making an important decision since I certainly cannot predict absolute outcomes. The beauty of it is, I'm starting to realize, is that no matter what decision I make there is always something valuable to be learned.
And, I think that's the huge difference between where I am at now and where I was as a teenager. I have gained the ability to assess my past with more consideration and from a more compassionate standpoint. I won't venture to say, though, that being in my 20's is significantly easier. It's just a different kind of challenge--one that I welcome much more.