I don't get how some R/Hr shippers dislike H/Hr (and other) shippers, for shipping them, when we know what happens and most of us will admit to accepting that Ron and Hermione got together - when some of those R/Hr shippers themselves, ship Rupert and Emma; yet they are not a couple? And we get dissed for it? I'm not aiming it at all of you or anyone in particular Well actually, someone on here said H/Hr "are a joke" so, just wondering.
On second thought, this probably isn't the right place to post this, sorry. Feel free to answer though
First off, LOL at your response Vida!
I'm afraid I can't entirely answer your question, Padfoot, because I don't fully know myself. I personally have nothing against H/Hr shippers or any other shippers, the only problem I've ever had (post-DH, anyway)was with those individuals who resorted to bashing characters and even JK herself because the series didn't work out how they wanted. Now, thankfully, I think we've moved past that stage, but I can still see considerable amounts of grievances from both that time and the pre-DH shipping wars. There was a lot of hurt on both sides which some shippers find it difficult to get over, and that's why it's difficult to restart friendly debate threads without getting into arguments, even after all this time.
To address your question more directly, I think that the majority of R/Hr shippers (I generalise, but of course there are exceptions)in this forum have now accepted that H/Hr shippers still exist, just as you have accepted that R/Hr is canon. And for the most part, I don't think we generally have a problem with that. From what I've read on here, the issue seems to arise when one shipper, for example, (quite rightly) states why they like their favourite pairing, and another shipper misinterprets this for them saying that the pairing should have got together. It's a fine line for some who struggle to put past grievances aside and approach shipping from a new light as we are trying to do in this thread. Some people still see the debate thread as a place for arguing for your ship, which essentially it is, but instead of still arguing, for example, that H/Hr SHOULD have got together, we are examining the good points of their relationship from both sides' points of view. That is a huge difference from years ago, so I think it'll take a while for some shippers to get used to it, when they see the debate thread as redundant now we know the outcome. Personally, I think it's a shame. I am happy to admit that I myself still have problems seeing the potential in H/Hr after having argued against them for so long, but I really do want to learn from the 'other side''s perspective, just as I love those H/Hr shippers who've had the courage to try and see R/Hr in a new light. I think through discussing both ships as a whole, we can rediscover good things about both pairings which were lost in the shipping wars, whether as romantic relationships or just as friends.
I still don't think I've actually answered your question, but hopefully my general rambling helps give you a little more insight, in my perspective at least. I think the main thing for all shippers who participate in this thread to remember is that it is not the same debate thread as it was pre-DH. We are not arguing why one couple is better than another or who SHOULD have got together, we are two ships trying to resolve our differences and rediscover all the great things about two couples who, if nothing else, are wonderful friends, in order to increase our understanding and enjoyment of the both the series and fandom as a whole. At least, that's why I'm here.